I took a two week break over Christmas. Yes, December 2016. Four months ago. Then it turned into a three week break, then four. Then I was scared to start again. Yep, scared. Getting back on the horse is scary no matter what the task. But why? Why on earth was I scared to blog?
- Judgement – if I don’t start again, then I am not around to be judged. People don’t generally look at a four month old blog and say “Oh, look. She let it fail. What a looser!” But when I start again, the searches will pick me up and the people will come. They will have the opportunity to see the four month gap and judge me for my lack of consistency. I am putting myself out there saying, “See, I turned a two week break into a four month hiatus. Go me!” Let the judgement begin.
- Losing the mojo – I am finding it harder to write this time than before. The words don’t flow like they used to. The topics don’t fill my brain begging to be explored. Is it just part of the flow of blogging? Is it because of the break and I’ll ramp back up? Am I too far away from why I started blogging? I don’t really know.
- Inability to keep it up – What if I can’ keep it up? What if I end up with another 2 -3-4 month break again? What if I just can’t do what I originally set out to do (post three times a week)? See number 1. What will others think? What will I think of myself?
I wrote these reasons to be scared in the context of blogging but I’ve had the same thoughts about the new curriculum in homeschool or the fabulous new exercise regime. Whatever routine you have that you want to follow that you somehow stop is what I’m talking about here.
So what do you do about it? How do you face the fear and get back on the horse anyway? This applies if your horse is blogging, exercising, dieting, a parenting plan, – really anything
- Let others judge- Frankly, at 46, I should have learned this lesson by now. And sometimes I have. Let others judge. What they judge and what they say in judgement says far more about them than it does about you. And it’s really none of my business. We’re all out there doing the best we can and there are those that make themselves feel better about their own failings by pointing out those of others. Don’t fall for it. Just go on and do your thing.
- Cut yourself some slack – It’s easy to judge yourself for lapses in routine (Ask me how I know…) but you have to but yourself some slack. Things come up. Life gets in the way. We just need a break and yes, sometimes it’s a long one. Do what you need to do and come back to your routine when you’re ready.
- Just do it – Nike is right – Just do it! Don’t think about what else you could do, just do what you decided you would do. One way that has really worked for me is something I heard on Darren Rowse from ProBlogger.com’s podcast. He tells himself “This is what I do.” What that looks like for me is in the morning when I want to sit down and check my email and see what’s on facebook, I get on the treadmill instead. And in the evening instead of zoning out in front of the TV, I hit the blog for a while first because “This is what I do.”
So get back on the horse despite the fear of judgement, fear of ability to still perform and fear of ability to keep going. To hell with judgement both yours and other peoples’ and just get out there (or in there) and do it!
Controlling the Chaos: What did you get back to doing on a routine basis that brought a little more order to your life?